You feel like you can’t look in the mirror at your own reflection? You feel like no matter what you wear, you will still feel the same about your body…When the promotion comes up at work, you won’t even bother applying because you feel like you wouldn’t get it or even if you did get it, you would mess it up entirely? You feel like you aren’t quite worthy of being loved fully…
You may even feel like you are a failing in life…like it doesn’t matter what you do, you are faced with these feelings like you won’t ever be enough??
If this is you, then get comfy because I have some news for you!
It’s not your fault that you feel like this, and you can absolutely change the feeling to feeling MORE THAN enough instead!
So listen up!
You have been conditioned to think you are not enough!
Firstly, the reasons why you feel so shitty are the following:
- Family
- Society/culture
- Potentially your Partner too
Family and partner may not do this intentionally (unless they are abusive or controlling, of course – then it’s absolutely intentional).
When you were born, you never actually had any feelings of unworthiness; that ‘belief’ has only come about because of childhood conditioning. For example, being told at school that your homework wasn’t good enough or by simply not getting your parents’ approval for something can turn into feeling that you are not good enough!
So, we condition ourselves to feel like this, which is only then cemented by society and certain cultures which points out we should dress a certain way, cook, clean, be mums, wives, career minded and run the damn house at the same time…I mean seriously, it’s enough for anyone to think they weren’t enough.
A partner in your life is also very influential, so if they are not empowering you, then it’s likely that your confidence may dwindle.
So what can you do about it?
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How can you make yourself more confident, feeling like you are enough?
- LEAVE the NEGATIVITY at the door – don’t allow anyone to talk down at you, set boundaries with friends/family/partners! In order to do this, you must be aware of who is making you feel positive and who is making you feel negative.
- Hang out with the inspiring ones, so the more you hang about with positive people who empower you..the more you will believe in yourself too! Confidence is contagious!
- Affirmations! This is not BS!! This can actually work but you can’t outright lie to yourself. You can’t go from feeling crappy about yourself, beating yourself up, to then saying ‘I am a queen who is worthy of everything great coming to me’…your mind will think it’s a lie instantaneously! Even though it is absolutely so true….So you got to be smart about it and trick your mind into believing something small and working your way up from there…like saying ‘I am day by day increasing my self esteem and having the confidence to try new things’. Please know that affirmations only work when you repeat them several times a day for several months, because you are reconditioning your mind and eventually your mind will start believing.
I hope this helps you feel better and please subscribe and follow for more information on dealing with perpetrators and healing from abuse.
Keep smiling at her in the mirror!
Sanita xxx
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