When you have gone through all the lies, manipulation, hurt, beatings, gaslighting and mindgames, and then you finally…yes, finally decide ‘enough is fricking enough’ and you leave his abusive ass!
Then you decide to do the bravest thing you could do by telling your story, only to realise it was wasted courage because NO ONE BELIEVES YOU!
You have to face false allegations because your perpetrator is so damn good at keeping up appearances…it’s like you have gone crazy! Because deep down you know you weren’t the abusive one… but the world believes he is innocent; all they see is his mask.
So why do your friends and family not believe you?
This is the painful question that I get asked a lot by women who I mentor; they don’t understand why the ones closest to them are not supporting them during their darkest times.
There are a few reasons but the main reason is because your friends and family don’t want to admit that they had formed a wrong opinion of someone, so rather than admitting they were wrong, it’s easier to point the finger at you and say you were wrong.
Whenever it feels like someone is trying to hurt you, please know it’s them hurting inside, and so they project the pain onto you and in most cases it actually has nothing to do with you!
I hope this helps you feel better and please subscribe and follow for more information on dealing with perpetrators and healing from abuse.
Keep smiling at her in the mirror!
Sanita xxx
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Thank you so very much. All your videos of overcoming domestic abuse is helpful to me as I have been through verbal, financial and emotional abuse by my ex husband.
Your videos I understand alot and how to get better. I am also of East Indian decent and I like the way you speak in a kind, gentle manner.
Keep helping women all over the world to overcome abuse. God bless you for doing a good job at helping.
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